Saving
Your Assets
When You Can't Save Your Marriage
Foreword
from Saving Your Assets
by Stewart H. Welch, III, one of America's top 150 financial planners
"Divorce
happens to approximately half the marriages in America, resulting
in a financial and emotional "ripple effect" that can be felt
for years, even generations."People often describe the experience
as worse than living through the death of someone you love.
It is a situation that is typically charged with emotion, with
significant financial issues at stake. Emotion often helps
to drive the financial issues as spouses attempt to grab assets
and inflict pain on their soon-to-be ex-husbands or wives.
All too often, the result is fewer assets to be divided among
the divorcing spouses."If you are contemplating a divorce,
carefully think through the ramifications to you, your family
and your finances. If children are involved, this decision
becomes that much more critical. If you have made a decision
to get a divorce, take appropriate steps to make sure you end
up with the best agreement possible. To obtain this result,
you need to develop a "success" mindset where you think of
your personal finances as a business and your divorce as the
biggest business transaction of your life (it very well may
be!). "It is counterproductive to allow yourself to be drawn
into emotional arguments and confrontations that are likely
to be costly, both financially and emotionally. Know what you
want to happen or what kind of financial arrangement you need.
This requires that you do a fair amount of homework. You may
want to seek the help of a professional financial advisor.
Here's a short list of subject matter to get you started."Monthly
expenses. You need to do a post-divorce budget. Draw up
a list of how your expenses will be different once your divorce
is final. Expenses such as housing and utilities will probably
be duplicated. Divide your expenses into non-discretionary
and discretionary. This will give a good feel for what your
income requirements will be. "Retirement analysis. While
you may be focused on your immediate needs, don't overlook
the critical long-term issues of retirement. Retirement planning
requires complex analysis and multiple assumptions. If you
and your spouse have investments in both retirement plans and
personal investment plans, would you be better off receiving
one or the other in the divorce settlement? What are the tax
ramifications of accepting one asset over another?"Debts. Complete
a detailed inventory of all family debts, including balances,
interest rates, monthly payments and whose name each debt is
in. Take precautions to insure that no new debt is incurred
before finalizing your divorce. This will often require legal
intervention from your lawyer. You want to protect your credit
standing, particularly if you have not built a strong credit
history on your own. Order your credit report from the credit
bureau to determine your current standing."Children's issues. If
you have children, pay particular attention to financial issues,
especially any future expenses. Parents often underestimate
the costs associated with raising children. Review your bank
and credit card statements to estimate what you will spend
on your children annually. Take into account fees for after-school
activities, camp or braces. If you have a teen, do you provide
a car or other big-ticket items? And don't forget about college.
The cost of putting a child through the University of Alabama
or Auburn can run $10,000 per year or more. Are you thinking
about private college? Count on spending $30,000 per year or
more. That is just in today's dollars. While general inflation
has been very low over the past few years, the costs of funding
a college education have been rising at 6% per year. "Asset
inventory. You should prepare a detailed inventory of all
your family's assets. For financial assets, be sure to include
account numbers and the location of accounts as well as account
balances. List all items of personal property. Ultimately,
these assets will be divided by you or the court as part of
the divorce settlement. You should think about which assets
are most important to your ultimate financial security into
the future. Do you prefer the house or a larger share of the
retirement accounts? "Once you complete this exercise, review
your needs in light of the family's current financial circumstances.
Are your needs realistically going to be agreed upon by either
your spouse or the courts? You are likely to find that significant
financial adjustments will be necessary. By developing a thorough
divorce settlement agreement, you can reduce the likelihood
of going back to court in later years, an exercise which is
both unpleasant and expensive. These are just a few of the
financial issues. In addition there is an array of non-financial
issues you will need to deal with. As you can see, divorce
is a complicated emotional and financial event. Once you have
determined that divorce is your only course of action, one
of the best moves you can make is to hire a lawyer who specializes
in divorce work. Paul Shaw gives you the behind-the-scenes
details on how to find and work effectively with a divorce
attorney. They cover both the financial aspects as well as
the emotional aspects of completing a successful divorce."
--
Stewart H. Welch, III
Stewart
H. Welch, III, is founder of The Welch Group, LLC, a fee-only
wealth management firm in Birmingham, Alabama. He is the
author of two books and co-author of "J.K. Lasser's New Rules
for Estate Planning and Taxes" (John Wiley & Sons, Inc.)
In addition, he is a financial columnist for The Birmingham
Post Herald and contributing editor to Physician's Money
Digest. He has been named by Money, Worth, Medical Economics,
Bloomberg Wealth Manager and Mutual Funds Magazine as one
of the top financial advisors in America.
About
the Co-Author Paul B. Shaw, Jr., is recognized as a leader in the area of divorce and family law, having been named by Birmingham Magazine as one of the top five divorce lawyers in Birmingham. Paul was also selected as a "Super Lawyer" by Business Alabama magazine.
Paul maintains a thriving civil litigation practice with concentration in matrimonial law. His experience in business litigation proves helpful in family law cases involving family-owned businesses, large marital estates or complex property arrangements and other intricate business relationships. Mr. Shaw displayed his divorce and financial expertise as co-author of the top-selling book on Alabama divorce, Saving Your Assets When You Can't Save Your Marriage, published in 2002.Paul recognizes that the emotional and financial aspects of divorce and child custody are intertwined. He strives to successfully settle those cases which can be resolved and aggressively litigate those that must be taken to trial. A native of Birmingham, Mr. Shaw is a graduate of Auburn University and the University of Alabama School of Law. He is a member of both the Alabama and Mississippi State Bars and has served in various roles with the Family Law Section of the Alabama Bar and the Domestic Courts. Paul began his legal career as a litigation attorney with the Mobile-based firm of Crosby, Saad, Beebe, Cavender and Crump prior to the formation of Shaw-Anderson, LLC. Paul is an active contributor of time and support to various community and charitable organizations and was honored in 1999 by selection to the Birmingham Business Journal's "Top 40 Under 40", a listing of the most outstanding young civic and business leaders. He is married with two children and is a member of Liberty Crossings United Methodist Church.
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